Ever seen the movie, 500 days of summer? Well, having a summer fling is a relationship that is similar to this movie with some cheesy one liners, pointless emotional fights and a whole lot of summer lovin’. Instead of Zooey Deschanel and Joseph Gordon-Levitt as the main lovers, replace them with you and your partner.
Having a summer fling is being in a relationship with a person of interest only for the summer. The problem with this fling is that there is an imaginary expiration date due around the time of August. Many young adults find themselves enjoying summer with their partner but with the mindset of living in the moment. If done differently, then the terms of this relationship turns into something that wasn’t planned. Here are the three basic rules for surviving a summer fling:
1. Don’t get too attached.
This is the main rule that should be followed. As seen in the movie, Joseph Gordon-Levitt’s character learned the hard way when he had to deal with the confusion of his feelings evolving for Zooey’s character. If this does occur, you should let your partner know as soon as possible to avoid any confusion or heart-break down the road.
2. Allow for spontaneity.
This creates of sense of excitement and urgency for the both of you. After all, being in a summer fling, both people know that it is a short-term relationship, so why not make every moment count? Visiting boring museums while making fun of serious “art,” going to amusement parks and making sure you are not the first to throw up and making a CD of your favorite 90s bands, are just some of the few things that can be done in a spontaneous way so that the spark doesn’t burn out.
3. Be aware of “the end”.
Going into a summer fling, both people need to know that this isn’t a long-term relationship. This could easily get mixed up with a “friends with benefits” type of vibe, but the differences are distinct. A summer fling is more than just hookups, but one of fully enjoying the company of another person physically, mentally and emotionally with control.
If these three rules are followed then both people can fully enjoy a summer fling and wont have to dread them when they fly away.
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Serendipity: the phenomenon of finding value in something without intending to search for it.
If I had to rest my finger on a single reason that I am a part of Valley today, I suppose I’d have to point to serendipity. It was that all-too-delayed spring heat, those beams that filtered through glass panes of the classroom windows as the light passed between some of my peers, ones who either slept through lecture or winced in pain as their hands cramped from overly-aggressive note taking. It was that very same sunshine that illuminated the stack of Valley Magazines on the front desk.
I picked up an idle copy of Valley and read it cover to cover, every word. It was a good day.
But the pages of the magazine I had yet to read eventually dwindled down to nil, and I was left with a hunger for more; perhaps a craving. Continue reading
Who would’ve guessed it, miss Lana Del Rey was right, summertime sadness is an actually thing. No, I’m not talking about the beginning of summer when parties are in full swing and activities are plentiful. But what happens when things dry up? We start our summer jobs, miss the carefree days of hanging poolside with our friends, and fall into the unavoidable rut known as boredom.
So let’s talk about falling in love. No, maybe not the head spinning, all consuming, butterfly type of falling in love, but the love you feel when you try something new and realize that hey, you’re kind of into it. When the daily grind has you in its clutches, it’s easy to get down on life and sitting around waiting for things to get exciting just isn’t going to cut it. So how do you fix it? Ahh, I’m happy you asked.
Simply try something new. A new exercise craze, some wild, adventurous activity, a new genre of literature or movies. Need some help getting the creative juices flowing? Look no further. Grab some friends or fly solo, either way you’re bound to find something you’re good at or something you like! Continue reading
There’s nothing in this world we resent more, but can completely relate to on an extremely shallow, yet intimate level. Yep, we’re talking about first world problems.
In light of finals and the inevitable chore of packing up everything you somehow managed to haul all the way here in the first place, you’re probably going to be hearing your fair share of first world problems being voiced this week and will most likely let a few slip yourself, and Valley wants to be there to say we told you so.
So, without further adieu, we bring you our comprehensive list of first world packing problems: Continue reading
Our college years are full of dramatic “I’m not a grown up!” moments- mostly unexpected, and typically unwanted. Anonymous Valley writers discuss it all, from avoiding basic responsibilities to dealing with the big, bad future. Let’s talk about it.
I absolutely love to dance. It’s not good dancing, but whenever I hear one of my favorite songs playing I am the first one to bust a move. You’ll see me trying to doing any type of dance move from “screwing the light bulb,” to “moving the lawn,” to Shakira’s “Hips Don’t Lie” or Beyoncé’s ‘Single Ladies.”
But the one type of dancing I simply cannot deal with happens to be the most popular type in college: grinding.
Even the word itself gives me the chills. Grinding is basically like, “Hey! I don’t know you and I probably never will get to know you, but let’s intimately rub our body parts together while listening to House Music.”
My fear of grinding goes back to 8th grade, when the high school I was going to attend hosted a dance for the incoming freshman. During the dance, the boy who I had a crush on during middle school (who was obviously the main topic of my diary) asked me to dance. What I didn’t know is that boys in my grade were experimenting with this dance move called “Grinding.” Continue reading
You don’t care. Well, maybe a little bit but it’s hard to care about some things with less than a month left. But there are ways to properly not care without hurting someone’s feelings or hurting your chances to keep up with schoolwork.
If you’re graduating, it’s easy to not care, especially if you’re just finishing up those last credits or already know you’re going to graduate school or have a job waiting for you. The future is secure so the present is a tad irrelevant right now. Especially that group project. That is something you really have to force yourself to care about. But remember that the last thing you need is to tank your graduation requirements by coming up short. This is the home stretch so hold in your joy about moving on to the next stage in your life and handle business. Otherwise you could come off as a cocky slacker and that’s not a cute look.
Even if you have more time left to enjoy Happy Valley, your mind may already be on a beach or at home or anywhere but in Thomas, listening to a lecture. But those final grades are necessary to cement your path for next year. Continue reading
Everyone does it. Well, a lot of people do it.
Cursing is something we are taught from a very young age not to do, but so many of us do it in our older age anyway. For some of us, it just feels good. It feels good to release our emotions in the form of these words. For others, it’s just second nature. Some of us have been exposed to it for so long that we barely consider them choice words anymore. These words just become another part of our everyday vocabulary.
Many girls, despite valiant efforts to uphold a ladylike appearance, sometimes just have to let out a curse word. It’s human nature. But, does this (at times) uncontrollable urge to let loose turn off guys? Continue reading
I was ecstatic when I received my first job offer from the company of my dreams. It’s not just any company – it’s a Fortune 500 car manufacturer. The position was more than any mechanical major could ask for. I was the happiest girl in the world until I talked to Kevin*.
I told my family and my close friends about the offer, including Kevin who, it turns out, also applied and got an offer for the exact same position at the same company. We chatted excitedly over lunch about our possible new job, about getting apartments and about going out on the night of our graduation ceremony.
Time seemed to freeze when Kevin mentioned how much he was being offered from the company. I found out that I was getting paid $4,000 less. I was offered less as my starting salary, not because I have a lower GPA than him (mine is higher than his), I have less work experience (we are about the same) or speak fewer languages than he does (I’m trilingual, are you kidding me?). On top of work experience and academic prowess, I competed in a car design contest in Germany one summer. Continue reading
It’s scary to think about, but a medical emergency can happen to anybody at any time.
While some of us had to take health classes in high school where we learned CPR and how to stop someone from choking, would you be able to do that now? What about in another health crisis? You should always call 911 in a medical emergency, but we’re here to help you figure out what to do until the EMS shows up.
Valley chatted with Theo Waksmunski, a registered nurse and clinical educator at Mount Nittany Medical Hospital, to help you get in the know. Continue reading
You’ve already heard the same thing from the Career Services office: have your resume and cover letter drafts ready so you can zip through job applications. But every once in a while, a curveballs that you didn’t expect to find during the job search hits you.
Curveballs can be anything from a pop test to a recorded video interview. All of them are just as scary and nausea-inducing. Jeff Garris, the director of Career Services, says the number one thing applicants may find surprising is how important patience is in the job search.
“Students are surprised by how slow the application process can be,” Garris says. “It can be a while before they hear anything. But the important thing is to follow up if you haven’t heard anything back in two weeks.” Continue reading