Our college years are full of dramatic “I’m not a grown up!” moments- mostly unexpected, and typically unwanted. Anonymous Valley writers discuss it all, from avoiding basic responsibilities to dealing with the big, bad future. Let’s talk about it.
I was one of those girls who made it through high school without ever having a boyfriend or having sex. I understand that it’s more common to not date in high school, but it still bothered me that all of my friends did. I’d complain a lot and subsequently get told two things:
“You need a mature guy and you’ll meet him in college!”
“Don’t worry, everybody has sex in college!”
Needless to say, neither has come true.
I understand that as a girl of moderate attractiveness levels, I could go home with somebody from the Phyrst if I really wanted to. Honestly, being a virgin doesn’t bother me as much as the fact that I’ve never had a boyfriend does. Call me old-fashioned, but my virginity, and who I let take it, is important to me.
My “first” other experiences were terrible – during my first kiss the boy didn’t understand the word “stop,” and my first oral experience, he used me and tossed me aside. So when I have sex, I want it to be with somebody whom I can trust.
I have come to learn who my real friends are based on what they tell me about my virginity. If the subject comes up, I explain why I haven’t had sex, and I either get people (usually my good friends) telling me that I’m smart to wait until I find a partner whom I can trust. Continue reading