Hookup culture has made it harder for college students looking for a long-term relationship to find a significant other. Due to the popularity of dating apps like Tinder and Grindr, many college-aged students are more likely to look for a casual hookup; however, if you’re looking for a deeper connection, it’s possible to change your dating life from countless matches on Tinder to a match that lasts longer.
Go on dates
Staying home and watching Netflix can be a great way to spend time with a potential significant other without breaking the bank, but leaving your dorm or apartment to hang out together is a great way to get to know someone on a deeper level. Eating at a restaurant, going to the movies or doing an outdoor activity together allows for opportunities for deeper conversation, all while creating new memories together.
If you’re looking for ideas, why not try something new! Check out the latest restaurant or get adventurous by doing something neither of you has ever done. Never been skiing? Haven’t gone bowling lately? Try it with your soon-to-be SO.
Meet the friends
If you want to take things to the next level while seeing someone in college, try meeting each other’s friends. Not only will you learn more about each other, but you’ll also get to see how well you get fit in with the different friend groups. By integrating into each other’s lives, the relationship will feel more meaningful and serious.
Use technology to your advantage
People are convinced that technology has ruined dating culture, but dating apps can actually be used to help you find a long-term relationship. Before the conversation goes too far, start by having an honest dialogue about what you both are looking for in terms of a relationship and the expectations you have for each other.
Additionally, technology makes staying in touch a lot easier. Despite the hustle and bustle of college life, taking the time to text or even call is a great way to get to know someone or even let your SO know you’re thinking of them.
Keep your eyes open
If dating apps aren’t your thing, spark up a conversation with the cutie next to you the bar, say yes to meeting your friend’s friend for coffee or meet up with that student from your Spanish class. Get to know as many people as you can — you never know who you might have a connection with! That being said, remember to listen to your gut if something seems off or if you don’t feel connection.
Don’t try to change someone
If the girl or guy you’re talking to has made it clear they’re not looking for a relationship, then it’s probably not the best idea for you to try and change their mind. A lot of college students aren’t looking for anything serious, so if someone expresses that to you, don’t take it personally and don’t try to change their perspective. Trying to change someone usually doesn’t end with a happily ever after.