We’ve all been there before. You’re part of a team and it’s time to get the job done but nobody seems to be taking things seriously except you. You feel that it’s time to lay down the law and get the ball rolling, except you don’t know what to say to your colleagues for one single reason. You don’t want to seem like a bitch.
If our male counterparts decided to step up and say something, would they be as hesitant? Probably not.
Guys don’t face the same criticism when it comes to these situations, and if they do it’s seen in very different terms. Needless to say, it’s not their fault – it’s just the way our society works and has been working for a while. However, the main problem is that we’ve allowed it to happen.
While I can’t speak for everyone, I constantly find myself having inner mind-battles when it comes to deciding if I’m better off speaking up or keeping my mouth shut. Most of the time, I do speak up (because I should have that privilege), but I usually receive a response implying that I’m too opinionated, pushy and, yes, a complete bitch. So, why is that fair? I don’t see myself as a bitch – I see myself as assertive, strong-minded and like most of my male colleagues, I just like getting shit done.
Women are molded to be nice to everyone all the time and have a constant smile on their faces. Yet, at the same time they’re told to exude confidence and demand respect. I hate to break it to you, but it’s kind of impossible to demand respect when the world expects you to constantly be a sweetheart.
With that being said, women have earned their right to speak up and that does not make them bitches. Think of all the women who paved the way for the rest of us. Do you think they got us voting rights by sitting down and looking pretty all the time? I think not.
As college women, who have gone through endless hours of hard work to make a name for themselves in various industries, the only word left to describe us is BOSSES, not bitches. So when you’re sitting in that business meeting a few months or years from now and hear something you don’t agree with, speak up girl, and don’t worry about what anyone has to say. You’ve earned it – we all have.