The Struggles of Being the Third Wheel in Your Friend Group

Photo from

Have you ever felt like the odd one out in your friend group? Does it ever seem like your friends have a stronger connection with each other than you? Feeling like the third wheel in your friend group is tough, and it’s hard when you don’t feel like you fit in with the rest. Good news for you, VALLEY has some tips on how to deal with these feelings and move forward:  

Talk It Out With Your Friends
Photo from @gretaaagee on Instagram

If you’re ever feeling left out in your friend group, talk to your friends about how you feel. It’s important to let your friends know how you feel because they might not even be aware they’re making you feel this way. Being open and honest about how you feel can also help prevent resentment from arising. Remember: communication is key in every relationship, including friendships.

Find Other Social Circles

If you’ve talked to your friends and they don’t seem to care or haven’t started to treat you better, it may be time to start looking for new social circles. This doesn’t mean that you have to completely drop your old friends, but consider distancing yourself a little bit. Try joining a new club on campus. Try getting to know some other acquaintances better, such as going out for coffee with the person you sit next to in class. 

Focus On Your Self-Growth
Photo from Pinterest

Feeling like the third wheel in your friend group can be a great opportunity to focus more on yourself and your personal growth. Spend some time doing what you love and take more time to work on yourself and your well-being. Consider going for a jog, practicing yoga, reading a book, listening to some podcasts or even hitting up the spa for some relaxing time to reflect. 

Avoid Comparing Yourself to Others

When you don’t feel valued in your friend group, it’s very easy to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to your friends. It’s important to always remember that your self-worth is not defined by others. Everyone is unique and has their journey ahead. Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your path and where you’re headed. 

Learn to Embrace Your Individuality
Photo from Pinterest

Instead of trying to fit in with your friend group, embrace who YOU are! Don’t mold yourself into who you think others want you to be. Losing who you are is never worth a fake friendship. Celebrate your unique interests with those who accept you for yourself. 

Being the third person in a group can be a difficult and sometimes painful experience to navigate, but it’s important to remember that you are not alone. Let your friends know how you feel and spend time for personal growth. Surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself, not around those who tear you down. By embracing who you are, you can overcome any feelings of third wheeling and find your place in the world. 

Be sure to tweet @VALLEYmag on Twitter with your thoughts and stories on third-wheeling in friend groups! 



Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.