Breaking Down the Hookup Culture: Is Chivalry Dead?

Everyone has their own definition about what the term “hook-up” really means. Studies are showing that the phrase has become a way of seeking potential romantic partners. These flings have turned into a form of speed dating, giving us the opportunity to meet multiple people in a particular setting before we decide if we’d like to take things to that first date level.

But, while some agree that this method has made it easier for them to meet potential partners, others feel that it masks the idea of building relationships the traditional way. Valley set out to gather opinions on how Penn Staters feel toward this debate!

College campuses are one of the only places where the dating pool consists of people that are all around the same age as you. Megan, a Sophomore, says she thinks this is something people should take advantage of. “I got out of a serious relationship last year and the idea of hooking up isn’t scary to me. It’s my way of meeting different people while I’m not looking for anything concrete, and there are a lot of options.”

She believes that there’s a stigma behind the topic and people are quick to judge others for partaking in it. At times, the hook-up atmosphere allows people to feel more comfortable. Everyone seems to be on the same page and there’s less pressure between both parties. The idea of hooking up doesn’t always have to end abruptly, either. There are instances of people meeting their eventual boyfriend or girlfriend after hanging out with them for a night and many claim it’s a good icebreaker.

Many students are on the opposite end of the debate spectrum. Some say chivalry has been destroyed due to the idea that people don’t need to be tied down in college, finding it hard to meet people who are actually interested in a serious relationship. It’s not hard to find people to grab lunch with, but nothing tends to move on from that point and there appears to be a struggle to find people who are ready to commit. It’s also possible that the process can cause people to want a relationship out of a hook-up with someone who doesn’t feel the same way, creating disappointment.

There’s also been a surge in recent years over apps such as Tinder. Many simply enjoy trying it out, but others rave about how easy it is to meet others locally. Taylor, a Sophomore, feels otherwise. “I find [dating apps] to be entertaining. I’ve used them as a joke, but I’ve never actually met any of the people I’ve matched with before. There’s better ways to meet the people around me.”

It’s difficult to know the true effect of hook-up culture, especially since everyone has a different definition of what it means. Relationships can create an unpredictable playing field and unexpected scenarios can arise from both sides. So, Penn Staters. What’s your opinion?