Telling your friends to “Take the chance and apply for the internship because an opportunity such as this may never appear again,” sounds like an inspiring ensemble of you being titled as the friend with the ability to give sound advice. Curating the notion that the advice you profoundly pass onto others is brilliantly taken for yourself too.
This can be a blessing and a curse because when a similar opportunity is dropped into your lap the same advice begins to sound like, “Perhaps I’ll hold off and apply another time,” or “I’m not qualified enough for this internship yet.”
When you’ve become coined as the friend who gives great advice, the identity is often linked with the assumption that your life is uncomplicated. Seemingly, the advice you disperse trickles back into your own personal life and you grasp the troubles of the world by the reins. Unfortunately, this is often not the case, rather it’s the complete opposite. There is a worthy avoidance brought into an embrace, permitting personal issues to pile up until they’re inescapable.
The advice you find yourself to be commended for is dismissed upon private matters. Still, perhaps it’s time to diminish the self-denial that you are not worthy enough to understand the solution your problems may be seeking. If you’re so willing to pass along a labor of guidance to your friends and family, because there is a sense of closeness reflected within the relationship, it seems viable to guide yourself as well. After all, you do know your purest inner thoughts and feelings better than anyone else.
An act of hesitation bubbles to the surface when attempting to internalize the advice you pass on to others. Typically, wise advice given stems from a reflection of current personal experience, so perhaps that is the problem. When you take your own advice it comes at the cost of having to open the realm of the problem(s) you’ve been hiding under your bed covers.
Despite the knowledge of experiences and all the goodies of enlightenment up your sleeve, the inability to mirror the words of encouragement into your own life is simply unfeasible. You are not ready to be intimate with a part of yourself, which has been easier to slip into the deeper files of the mind.
“It’s hard to be your own adviser because you’re too close to your own problems and so your emotions are more likely to cloud your judgment.”
The Cut – New York Magazine Publication
In order to soak up your potential to produce well-founded personal advice, the first step is to push all emotions to the side and focus on your complications from an outsider’s point of view. How hard can it be to forget how you’re feeling emotionally? The obvious answer is impossible. So, let’s take it back to a time when our problems were as trivial as losing our favorite toy: the year 2011.
In 2011, the movie Soul Surfer, starring AnnaSophia Robb, was released and there’s a line in the movie VALLEY suspects could be of value when striving to apply self-advice to your own life. “If you’re dealing with something in life that’s too hard to handle or just doesn’t seem to be making much sense… get a new perspective.”
Change the view. Whether it be physically or figuratively, adapt to an opposed perspective that is incomparable to the current way you’re observing your situation. There’s no doubt it will be uncomfortable because we are often compelled to guidance akin to what has successfully gotten us through previous situations, but change opens possibilities for growth.
When placing goggles of a greater scope on your face, the answers to your personal troubles may be revealed under the sun. It’s not a matter of lacking the potential to instill useful advice into your own life, but the fearlessness to uncover your distress in the first place.
It starts with yourself, harmonizing with what your soul deeply needs, becoming connected to a different perspective and then exhibiting the advice you’ve produced upon the matters of your own life. You’ve had the tools to guide yourself all along, but it is a matter of self-belief that is needed to carry out a sage self-counsel.
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