Heavy emotions, from breakups to arguments, can send your body into a whirlwind. Your heart feels as if it is about to beat out of your chest, and your eyes are so blurry that you struggle to see. From the moment you wake up, these thoughts and feelings torment your mind. You just can’t seem to shake them, and it can feel as if they will last forever. As the thoughts persist, you wonder when or if you will ever feel like yourself again. But here is the truth: these feelings are temporary.
Take a breath and regain control. Think about past moments that once felt just as consuming. At the time, the pain seemed never-ending, and there was no light at the end of the tunnel. But there was, and you made it through. You healed as life moved on, and in that time, so did you.
So simply ask yourself, “A month from now, will I feel the same?”
Chances are you won’t. Everything might not be fully back to normal, the hurt could remain, but it’ll sting less. The tears won’t come as easily. The memories won’t feel like a stab to the heart, but rather an ache. You’ll have created new friendships, laughed more, even on some days, it hardly crosses your mind.
While it sounds cliché, healing is not done overnight. It’s so subtle you may not even notice it’s happening. One day, you realize you didn’t think about it first thing in the morning, or the mention of their name no longer exerts a reaction. This is progress, the beginning to get back to normal again.
It is easy to believe you won’t get over something when you’re in the middle of it. Heavy emotions can feel overwhelming, but their grip will loosen with time. If you are hurting right now, hold onto this: A month from now, you’ll be somewhere different. Not just physically, but emotionally. You’ll feel stronger from what you have overcome. You’ll have made it through.
Those painful memories that once felt consuming will become just that: a memory. It is another test of your growth and resilience, and will show just what you can endure and are capable of moving past. Let that be your hope. One day at a time, it will happen without you even knowing it. Like anything else, it will pass. Just hang in there, the future is kinder than you think.
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